I’ve been busy working on my free report “Top 10 Tips to achieving Phenomenal Success” that will be available on my website from Monday and I pondered the following question:
Why is it that people who have success in many areas of their life only focus on the area that to them is the least successful?
It’s a situation that I’m only too familiar with and one which I recognise well particularly when I suffered miscarriage after miscarriage before my son was born. I used to sob at my husband and anyone else who would listen “why can I be so successful at everything else but not manage to achieve this? I’m just useless”
I see it in the clients I work with, some will say “Why am I such a failure at everything?” when they’re actually very successful but struggling to find the right partner. Others will bemoan their inability to ever get a ‘good’ job despite being hugely successful in everything else they do and not seeing the successes they have on a daily basis in their work.
Most of us however, see ourselves as failures because we spend too much time comparing ourselves with everyone else. How often have you found yourself envying someone else’s lifestyle, job, wardrobe? Believing they really had it all and were totally successful in every area of their life? And how often have you got to know that person and realised that yes, they had a lot of material success but felt abject failures because something within their lives, something not outwardly visible, wasn’t right or working for them?
We spend so much time judging people on their material success but how often do we stop and ask if they feel truly successful?
Some of the most successful people I know, and I’m not talking about multi-millionaires here, are those people who have managed to achieve a balance in all areas of their lives. They’re continually growing and learning but they’re happy with themselves. They don’t feel the need to compete with others and they don’t necessarily have the fast cars, designer wardrobes, exotic holidays or masses of cash in off-shore accounts! These are people who are happy with their lives exactly the way they are, they live the life they want on their terms and that in turn makes them feel Phenomenally Successful.
Phenomenal Success means something different to everyone I work with, I’d love to know:
What’s your idea of Phenomenal Success? Why?
What do you need or want in your life to make you truly happy?
Why will that make you happy and successful?
Leave me a comment with your thoughts, i’d love to hear them
